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title: Mind What Matters (Learn to Never Miss)
description: 3 things happened to me this week...
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# [Mind What Matters (Learn to Never Miss)](https://blog.kevinwathey.com/mind-what-matters)

 Written by [Kevin Wathey](https://blog.kevinwathey.com/author/kevin-wathey) | October 7, 2023

Life is cyclical, and I find we get in to trouble when we fail to let it flow

 

3 things happened in my life week...

 

I told someone I loved them for the first time.

I got to attend the wedding of two friends who's relationship I aspire to create.

... and I lost my uncle in a private plane crash - all in the span of 72 hours.

 

I got the news as I myself had just landed and was taxiing to our gate.

The part I find most interesting is that I wasn't sad...

... if anything, I felt that I *'should'* be - but I know better than that.

 

This makes me think of the following:

 

> '*Desire is a contract* that *you make with yourself* to be unhappy until *you* get what *you* want.'
> 
> - Naval Ravikant

 

Nothing can be the way it was, it can only be the way it is...

... and I've experienced so much loss in my life I believe I've come to peace with the inevitable.

 

It's why I started this edition the way that I did.

 

For many years I only valued monetary achievements - doing things western society thought valuable.

When I reflect back on the things I value most right now, they're the intangibles.

 

The moments spent with friends...

The weddings attended...

The memories created...

 

A few months ago I recognized a core value of mine: Never Miss

 

Never miss a party

Never miss an event

Never miss a birthday

Never miss a friends special moment

Never miss an anyone who means something to you's anything.

*Never miss because you don't know if it's going to be the last time.*

People are special.. and I feel that now more than ever.

It's this core value that I believe is the reason I choose to play life full out.

... as there is no '*take 2*'... so let it rip!

 

P.S. Tell someone you love them today!

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